For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a innately gloomy person. I’m sure it’s the result of chemical misfires up in my complex brain. However, thanks to some of the greatest people I’ve ever met, I’ve learned to be more generally positive and hopeful about life. I look for the light instead of staring at the blackness of the world all day long. I’m eternally grateful for the lessons I’ve been taught that help me stay afloat.
There are times, though, especially late at night when I’m worn out – when my defenses fail and the negativity surrounding me starts to infiltrate my thoughts. The worst part of this is that the negative vibes usually come from those close by. One would hope that those closest would lift us up instead of drowning us. Unfortunately, this is the way most people are, though – negative, sulking in sadness, and focusing on all the bad stuff in life. I’m occasionally guilty of this, too. We all are.
My issues are my own. My problems are my fault and my actions and thoughts are mostly under MY control. So I’m not blaming anyone for any issues I have in my life. I’m old enough to take responsibility for my own mind. In those moments of weariness when my defenses are low and the sea of negativity seeps into my mighty sailboat, I turn to music.
Two songs have saved me from drowning countless times when dark clouds made their way into my horizon: Hated by Beartooth and Popular Monster by Falling in Reverse. Here’s what these songs taught me and how they save me on the darkest nights:
1 – The insecure and unhappy search for any way to bring happier people down to their level of gloom.
The age old saying – “misery loves company” – is true. Those who are unhappy love to seek out others to pull down into the abyss. It’s like zombies – zombies exist to eat and create more zombies. Don’t let the zombies of negativity turn you into a zombie as well. Be strong and know that harsh words and hateful comments mostly come from places of insecurity.
2 – Most look at the black and ignore the light. Be unique.
In this society we’re trained to see all the bad and all the stuff we don’t have. Be unique and look at the good. Ignore all the ads that just want your money and focus on the awesome people and things you already have in life.
3 – Most forget that others have issues as well. We get caught up in our own problems and assume we’re the only ones going through difficulties.
Everyone on this planet is facing hardships of some kind. We all have wars swarming inside of us. No one is perfect. Instead of feeling alone, let’s connect through our difficulties. That’s why I love these two songs. They help me feel connected with the singers and others who love the songs as well. By listening to these songs, I know I’m not alone.
4 – I’ve worked my butt off to be a better person, so screw those who haven’t put in that work yet and try to bring me down.
It’s beyond annoying when dozens of hours have been put into positive affirmations, therapy, and other self-improvement tactics, and yet those around us continue to shoot cannonballs at our newly build defenses.
Why do people suck so much? Yes, others are insecure and unhappy. Yes, everyone has issues. But sometimes it helps to just scream out a huge, “SCREW YOU,” to anyone who tries to bring us down. We’ve worked our butts off to be better humans and we do not deserve the hate.
So screw those who want to bring me down. I’m doing my thing and growing as a human being.
5 – The insecure are comforted by beating others down. Know that those doing the beating will forever be miserable.
This goes along with #4. Those who beat others down will NEVER be happy as long as they keep spreading negativity. Say, “SCREW YOU,” and know that those bringing us down are doomed to be miserable until they cut out the pessimistic/judgmental vibes.
Keep doing you. Keep working on yourself and don’t worry about what others think because they aren’t happy anyway.
6 – Get some rest.
Even if these songs taught me nothing else, I’d still learn that lying in bed listening to music is one of the best coping mechanisms of life. We all need rest and to recuperate our positive defense systems. Our brains aren’t stone, they’re only human. And hell, even stones weather away after awhile.
Everything and everyone needs an occasional break.
Thank you for reading this post and thank you so much to Falling in Reverse and Beartooth for their amazing songs – “Popular Monster,” and “Hated,” respectively.
Be strong, get some rest, and don’t let others bring you down. Thanks for being alive and have a great day. Stay positive in this ocean of negative people. 🙂