There’s a lot of misleading information out there today that leads us to feel that our lives are meaningless. It’s difficult to know how truly valuable you are when negative messages surround us. Regardless of what the media, social media, celebrities, magazines, or any other form of advertising say, here are 12 things that absolutely do NOT define your worth as a person:
1 – Your income.
Everyone is always out for more money and a higher paying job. Even centuries ago, throughout different methods of currency, humans have made the mistake of associating wealth with self worth. That’s basically reducing people to the minuscule value of a tiny rock of copper. Let’s understand that we are so much more than a dollar bill. Income might be a factor when you pay bills, but it does not, in any way, make you more or less of a valuable person.
2 – Your weight.
Weight loss is discussed everyday, on every channel, in every advertisement. It’s so much of an obsession that we as a country are daily doing the exact opposite of losing weight. It’s because “weight” and “self-worth” have become nearly interchangeable. Let’s be more than a number on a scale. Yes, go for some walks and work on health, but know how amazing you are while you are doing it. You have value, no matter the number of pounds or kilograms.
3 – Your social status.
We are often sent the message that without dozens of friends surrounding us day and night, we aren’t worth people. The truth is, some people like having a lot of friends constantly hanging around – and some do not. Some are fine with one close friend while others need more contact. Some people live in areas where making friends is difficult and others have little desire to meet anyone new. Whatever your style is, it’s perfectly fine. Be you, because that makes you valuable – not striving to meet an expectation sold by TV commercials.
4 – The number of followers you have on social media.
This might be an issue for younger generations, but the number of followers one has, has become synonymous with “worth.” “I’ll be a worthy human when I hit 10K followers.” Again, let’s understand that we are more than a number.
5 – The number of likes you get on each picture you post.
I’ve felt before that a picture I posted of myself was ugly or annoying just because it didn’t get very many “likes” on social media. I then started to question the way I look, what my caption was, etc. I worried about it for days. I know we all do this. It’s not okay. “Likes” shouldn’t be used as validation of self worth. Do not be harsh on yourself or think less of who you are because you fail to receive a hundred “likes” on social media.
6 – The clothes you wear.
Be comfortable, wear what you like, or follow fashion if it interests you – but never let your worth come from something material. Fashion can be a hobby and. for most, clothes shopping is enjoyable. But the clothes you wear do not define the worth you were born with.
7 – Your mental health.
We live in a world that cultivates mental issues. The majority of the population suffers from depression, anxiety, or other debilitating problems. We are set up to have these issues while being told at the same time that it’s shameful to have these disparities. Take care of yourself and pay attention to your mental state, but never let it define you or shame you. We all have issues, we are NOT our issues. You have value, regardless of if you suffer from some sort of mental illness. You are human, you have value, and you have worth.
8 – Your physical health.
Another issue with our society is that it tells us we must be pictures of perfect health, while leading us to constantly partake in unhealthy activities – overworking, rushing, stressing, never resting, etc. Most physical ailments aren’t our fault, anyway. Work on health, yes, but do not define your value by it. Having diabetes, a stomach virus, or high blood pressure doesn’t make you any less of a worth person.
9 – Your mistakes.
Your mistakes do not define you. We all screw up, constantly. Everyday is likely to have a few mistakes in it. That’s life, that’s being human. Learn from mistakes, and never let them bring you down. Mistakes are proof that you aren’t sheltered up in a bedroom all day. Step out, try new things, mess up a lot, and live your life. You are NOT your mistakes. You are more than that.
10 – Your career.
This goes along with income and social status, but many people define themselves by their career alone and forget that there is a world outside of work. If you love what you do for a living, that’s great. Just don’t define who you are by something that could be taken away one day. Find a job you love, but remember that you have value outside of work.
11 – The things you own.
Similar to income, we place a lot of self-worth in what car we drive, how clean our home is, and what iPhone we’re going to buy. Things are only things and they won’t last forever, no matter how much money we spend on them. Self worth and value do last forever, so don’t put your value on material items.
12 – What others think about you.
There’s a reason it’s called SELF-worth and SELF-value, SELF-esteem, etc. Others will think what they will, and we have no control over it. Don’t place your value in someone else’s hands. You are worthy. There will always be negative people in the worth. Know that your value is way more than the thoughts of others.
Thanks for reading this post. I hope you have a great day. Remember that you will eternally have value and worth.
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