12 Alternatives to Anger Outbursts

The monstrous beast of anger is not a force that can always be avoided. After all, we’re only human, and anger is a natural emotion. A lot of us bottle anger up until we head straight into a breakdown when it all comes crashing down. Others resort to fits of outrage and violent behavior. Both of these methods are unhealthy. They will not only damage our relationships around us, but also our heart and souls within – killing our immune systems and destroying our psychological health.

Anger is sometimes unavoidable, but the consequences of this emotion are avoidable. We each have the ability to release this anger in healthy, purifying ways. But it’s up to us to make the decision to react in a different way that our norm. It’s up to us to choose to make a healthy escape versus exploding or bottling. So how can we relieve the tension of anger and frustration without causing harm? Check out these ideas:

1 – Exercise.

Not only does exercise enhance the mood, but physical exertion utilizes those pesky stress hormones we build up as anger takes over our bodies. It doesn’t have to be an extensive, complicated workout. Sprinting or jogging mixed in with walking for fifteen minutes around a local track can significantly relieve the pressure rising within the angry human.

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Fifteen minutes – we all can spare fifteen minutes right? Especially if it means avoiding a potential breakdown.

2 – Scream.

Go to a secluded area or find a pillow to smash against the mouth – and let out a massive, intense, SCREAM. Scream as long and as loud as the vocal chords can handle. Feel the anger intensify and then slowly release its grip on the body as the noise leaves the lungs.

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It might sound crazy, but it works. Go somewhere and let it out. We could all use a good scream from time to time.

3 – Write it out.

Journaling isn’t for everyone, but for some, it can be a life saver. Find a pen and some paper and let the feelings flow from the brain down to the sheet. It’s okay to cry, breathe heavily, and even tense our muscles as we write. But after jotting down the frustrating events and expressing the way we feel, everything will soon relax.

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Crumple up the pages, shred them, or keep them in a safe place – whatever works best to take care of the tension.

4 – Hit something (not someone).  Find a local community baseball field or hitting cages and hit the hell out of a few baseballs. See if there’s a gym close by with a heavy bag to punch. Or simply throw a few powerful fists at an invisible man. Feel the anger leave your system with each powerful punch or hit.

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5 – Squeeze.

Stress balls exist for a reason – because it can actually help to forcefully squeeze a squishy ball until the blood leaves the hand. Grab a stress ball and keep it on hand for those difficult moments. When the anger starts to rise, pull that little ball out and give it a nice squeeze.

6 – Throw something. 

This is just another form of “letting it out” and releasing that built up physical tension. Go  find a gravel road and throw some rocks. Find a racquetball court and throw the ball at the wall a hundred times.

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7 – Draw a picture of the person or people you’re angry at – and then shred it.

I think this is a great point to end on. Anger is inevitable but our responses to anger are our own choice. It’s easier said than done and requires practice. Next time you find yourself seething, try one of these methods to protect yourself. Have a wonderful day and take care of yourself.


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Skating to Grandma’s

A bout of walking, no rush

Let the board slide from my fingers

When I hit pavement

Right foot first, goofy

Kick, kick, kick

Long legs, long stride

Push, paddle, push – BOOST

Glide towards the sun

Freedom

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This is Why You Are The Sun

Metaphors for human life exist all throughout nature – if we take the time to observe and compare. Seeing the parallels between your life and the lives of creatures and natural phenomenons all throughout the universe will help you feel connected to something greater than the modern, manipulated society. This post will discuss the similarities between a single human life and the Sun above.

To be clear, this will NOT be claiming that the world revolves around humans. Human beings are important, but not the center of the solar system. However there are some other, more humbling parallels among ourselves and that bright star we circle each year.

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Here is how the Sun is like your human life:

1 – Throughout life, you will rise and fall repeatedly. 

We all have ups and downs. Often when things seem as if they cannot stray any further downhill – further, in fact, they can go. On the other hand, after persevering through the difficult times you will see your life starting to brighten once again. Life grows arduous, and life shifts upward. It’s normal and natural for the universe to knock you down and pick you back up over and over throughout the years you live. Don’t let the dark times ruin the good, and don’t let the good times leave you in despair during the dark days.

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Rise and fall – it’s what we’re built to do – just like the Sun. Sunrise/Sunset. Soulrise/Soulset.

2 – You need rest. 

Rest is often seen as weakness or laziness in our modern world. Aren’t you supposed to be cleaning your home or doing laundry on the weekend instead of staying in bed all day? …Not necessarily.

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We are only human and if the mighty bright Sun needs to go down and have a few hours hours out of the spotlight, then so do we. Don’t make the mistake of neglecting to give yourself rest and time to relax in peace.

3 – You can radiate your light to the those around you. 

Within your soul resides wisdom and strength that others can benefit from. Be like the Sun and radiate your uniqueness to the world. Don’t hide it in fear or lack of confidence. Laughter, positive messages, and kindness are contagious. They each have the ability to scatter their rays of light across this darkened world, but only if each human is brave enough to let out his/her inner light.

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Learn to be like the sun and throw those beams of light out each day, consistently. Don’t ask for permission, just go for it.

4 – You are built – mentally and physically – to keep moving. 

Growing settled in one place, or sticking in one toxic situation is something we’re all guilty of. It’s often scary to keep moving in life, but it’s also something we need to do. Life is too short to dwell. Sitting idly is never good for anyone’s health. Always strive to explore – whether it’s new places on earth or new areas within yourself.

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The Sun above is in constant motion, as we humans should be, too. The second we give up on further movement of our minds and bodies is the second we give up on life. Just as if the Sun stopped moving, destruction comes when we sit in place for too long.


Do you see that your human life parallels the actions of the Sun? How amazing is it that our little lives mimic the behavior of the life giving star we see everyday?

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Thank you for reading this post, and go check out the Sun today. Feel the power in your soul and know that you and that star are the same. And have an awesome day.

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Catdog Ups and Downs

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Day 1 Without You

One Day

They are standing in the kitchen discussing the new house they’ll build in a few years, “when the time is right.” Their excitement is feeding off each other’s enthusiasm. They each have a list of what they want in the new home. She wants a larger kitchen. He wants a barn in the backyard and space for a garden. They both agree that a porch surrounding the entire home is a must. They have a notepad filled with sketches of floor plans to discuss and debate.  The possibility of selling the current home and building a new one from the ground up gives them hope. They found a reason to push through the daily jobs they despise.

Hope – whether false or not. It’s hope, and it helps their spirits to endure through arduous times.  How many hopes and dreams are built off of a future endeavor? How often do we repeat the words, “I’ll be happy when….or if…this happens.” And, “until that comes, I’m holding out for better days.” Because better days have to exist, right? Otherwise, what are we all waiting for?

Something more than what our lives consist of now must be making its journey here, as we speak. That’s why we suffer, isn’t it? To hopefully have a brighter future. Will this dream house out in the country ever come to fruition? Will she get her kitchen, and he his barn? In truth, the outcome is irrelevant. Maybe this will happen, and maybe it won’t. That’s not important. What matters is they have hope and a reason to fight for their dreams. That notepad full of ideas – that’s where the source of their current happiness lies.

Hope for the amazing events to come is more powerful than the events themselves. Whether they come or not, they did their job. They gave us hope that one day, things could be better.

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I’ll See Better Days


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12 Quotes From ‘Jane Eyre’ That Will Make You Think (Part 2)

Thank you, Charlotte Brontë, for creating a masterpiece full of wisdom. Here are 12 lines from Jane Eyre that provide incredible life lessons:

“The charm of adventure sweetens that sensation, the glow of pride warms it; but then the throb of fear disturbs it;” Narrator (Chapter 11)

We all want and need new experiences, but are often too afraid to try. Put fear aside and just go for it. It’s okay to be afraid; it’s not okay to let fear prevent opportunities.

“…I believed in the existence of other and more vivid kinds of goodness, and what I believed in I wished to behold.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

Don’t settle. If you know what you want and what you deserve from others and the world, never stop until you find it. It’s out there somewhere.

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“It is vain to say human beings ought to be satisfied with tranquillity; they must have action; and they will make it if they cannot find it.” Narrator (Chapter 12)

Feeling guilty about wanting to go out into the world to learn and experience new cultures, lifestyles, and careers is unreasonable. Do what you feel is right for you.

“…one should consider all before pronouncing an opinion as to its nature.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 13)

Don’t judge or condemn when not all the facts are known.

“His changes of mood did not offend me, because I saw that I had nothing to do with their alteration; the ebb and flow depended on causes quite disconnected with me.” Narrator (Chapter 14)

The actions of others are not your fault. Don’t take the actions of others personally.

“…remorse is the poison of life.” Mr. Rochester “Repentance is said to be its cure, sir.” Jane Eyres (Chapter 14)

Make amends for things that you are sorry about.

“I will break obstacles to happiness, to goodness…” Mr. Rochester (Chapter 15)

Nothing can stand in the way of creating a better life for ourselves.

“…convinced me that there must be arguments against its general adoption of which I was quite ignorant, otherwise I felt sure all the world would act as I wished to act.” Narrator (Chapter 18)

Whatever you believe in – whether it’s involving religion, culture, finance, music, etc. – always respect what others believe in. They have their reasons, you have your reasons, and though we see the world differently, we can continue to be courteous to one another.

“…I can live alone, if self-respect and circumstances require me so to do. I need not sell my soul to buy bliss. I have an inward treasure, born with me, which can keep me alive if all extraneous delights should be withheld, or offered only at a price I cannot afford to give.” The gypsy (Mr. Rochester) quoting Jane’s personality (Chapter 19)

Being alone is not a bad thing if it means avoiding people who are toxic. We can all be content within our own presence.

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“…my harvest must be in smiles, in endearments…” The gypsy (Mr. Rochester) (Chapter 19)

Making others smile and connecting with friends is more valuable than money.

“…a wanderer’s repose or a sinner’s reformation should never depend on a fellow-creature.” Jane Eyre (Chapter 20)

Don’t look to others to make yourself feel better about regrets or feelings. This must come from within.

“I still felt as a wanderer on the face of the earth: but I experienced firmer trust in myself and my own powers, and less withering dread of oppression. The gaping wound of my wrongs, too, was now quite healed, and the flame of resentment extinguished.” Narrator (Chapter 21)

Once you feel good and confident about yourself, nothing is impossible.


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Terrain and Code Cracking


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12 Reasons You Should Smile Right Now

No matter what is happening in your day as of now, take a minute to smile. Smiling has the power to completely turn your entire day around. I know it sounds cheesy, believe me, but it’s worth it to be a bit cheesy for a few seconds if it means making your day better. If you need some motivation, here’s a list of 12 reasons to smile right now:

1 – You are alive, your heart is beating.

The beating heart is a seemingly simple physiological mechanism. (Try saying that 3 times fast.) However, it’s what keeps us all going. And unfortunately, hearts stop beating everyday. So be grateful that your motor is still moving as it should.

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2 – The Sun is up there in the sky.

The universe is a vast space of expanding matter. Think about our bright Sun up in the sky – it’s power, it’s energy, it’s ability to help sustain all of our lives down here on Earth. Appreciate the amazing Sun up there, feel it’s heat and see it’s power. Smile.

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3 – Today is a new day, a chance to start fresh. 

Whatever happened yesterday, today can be different. You have the power to make today better and more productive than the previous.

4 – Tomorrow will be another new day, with another chance for a new beginning. 

Has today been sucky? Has everything in the book gone wrong? Guess what, tomorrow doesn’t have to be as poor. Hang in there and smile with the promise of another day ahead.

5 – You are on Earth, the most vibrant, flourishing with life planet in the galaxy. 

That could have probably been worded more smoothly, but you see the point. Of all the planets in the universe, we are lucky enough to live on the one with the most life (that we know of). We are here because this amazing planet has the capacity to support our human lives. We owe the Earth for allowing us to live.

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6 – For no reason at all.

Psychologically, smiling can actually improve your mood. Even without a reason. Behavior affects the mood in this case. So take a bathroom break and smile in the mirror.

7 – Your past hardships are over. 

Though new challenges present themselves everyday, it helps to take a moment to remember all the battles of the past and how you pushed through. Smile at your persistence and hardiness through the wars of the past.

8 – Your story is yours alone.

Feel genuinely proud that your story is the only story of its kind. No one’s autobiography will mimic your own. Own the fact that you are unique and one of a kind.

9 – You live in the modern world. 

Modern society has its flaws and its own issues, but we can all take a look at the previous centuries and see how lucky we are to live in the present. Medical advances, technological improvements, and overall quality of life have all contributed to generally happier lives. There are pros and cons with progression, but for the most part we are living in a cleaner, healthier world with more opportunities than our ancestors were given.

10 – A smile will make others smile.

One huge cheesy grin on your face has the radiant effect to spread and make someone else smile. So if you can’t find the power to smile for yourself, muster up the strength to cheer someone else up with a smile.

11 – The world is still spinning. 

Here’s another big picture perspective tip – think about your problems in terms of the spinning Earth. All the issues, mistakes, and battles in the world won’t prevent the Earth from rotating. Smile at the rotating Earth, and that no matter how much damage we cause on the surface, it still persists to spin through space.

12 – Life goes on. 

Sometimes life just really sucks. There’s no getting around it most of the time. We win, we lose, we fall, we bleed, and we cry. No matter what, life goes on. Always, life will go on. It’s a promise. And that’s a promise that we can all smile for.

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Thank you for reading this post. Go out and smile, and make some other people smile. You deserve it.

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